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For years, I thought leadership meant being everything to everyone, saying yes, even when my heart whispered no. I softened my voice so others could feel comfortable and I shrank myself just enough to keep the peace. I believed pleasing people was the path to influence but I was extremely wrong. People-pleasing became the quiet habit that held me back. It blurred my voice, dimmed my confidence, and slowed my growth.
I remember when a colleague at work asked me to take on another project, I was already stretched thin, but I said yes because I wanted to be seen as somebody that was dependable. A week later, I was exhausted and frustrated, because my own priorities had suffered. That’s when I realized I wasn’t leading I was performing for approval.
So today, I say farewell to that habit. I no longer confuse agreement with leadership. True leadership isn’t about pleasing really it’s about having the courage to stand firm on your values, even when it’s uncomfortable.
You must remember, when you stop living for approval, something in you shifts; your voice gets stronger, your boundaries get clearer, and of course your impact gets deeper.
So farewell to people-pleasing and hello to authentic, unapologetic leadership.
About the author:
Chika is a dynamic business leader and mentor with a passion for empowering women and young leaders. With extensive experience in business development, digital transformation, and community initiatives, she thrives on creating impact, sharing knowledge, and connecting with like-minded women driving positive change. Rabecca believes in leadership that inspires, uplifts, and leaves a lasting mark.
